Monday, January 17, 2011

You're Not Infertile You Jerk...

While I'm not one to down play any ones pain either real or perceived this annoyed me to the point where I had to remember that.

"I got pregnant with my first child a month after I got off birth control and a month before I got married. We conceived our second child again within a month of coming off the pill. Our third was conceived in the same manner, and then I decided to get an IUD placed. I had the IUD removed in May. We used condoms for June, July, and August. We started trying to conceive for real in November. Well now its January and I'm not pregnant again. I want to know when I can go to a doctor about my infertility."

SERIOUSLY you've been trying for TWO MONTHS and you think you're infertile!!

What I wanted to say and actually typed was this:

Keeping in mind that it took us 3 months to become pregnant only to miscarry and then 10 years later finally being pregnant again only to miscarry again I would tell you that your insane to even be considering the fact that you're "infertile" Get a grip, go grab a glass of wine and have sex a few more times with your husband because I'm sure that in three months you will be coming back here telling us that you were wrong you're not infertile because your 12 freaking weeks pregnant.

Instead what I said was...

While I don't wish to downplay you're pain you are no where near ready to be classified as infertile. Per the definition infertility is the inability to conceive after 12 months of unprotected intercourse if under 35 and 6 months if you're over 35. For someone who is both classically and secondarily infertile-if you can call me that I would say that no doctor is going to entertain your concerns seriously after just two cycles.

Of course now I'm waiting for those who shove rainbows and butterfly's are going to rip me apart, but boy...can you imagine if I had told her what I really think...Seriously people...I know you can't walk on egg shells around everyone but think before you speak...Grief it isn't like I go to over eaters annonymous and complain because I ate an extra serving of nachos yesterday and I gained an ounce...

Thank you for letting me vent. I feel better now.


  1. Tell her eff off--she's a moron and I hate her. You should have told her so. (I guess you sometimes have to be nice though.)

  2. Good for you for setting her straight! Ignorant people make me mad.... Its not like she couldn't have gotten that answer for herself if she would have gone onto wikipedia or webmd or any site like that.... if she would have bothered looking for herself.

    I'm PMSing so I kinda wish you would have given her the other answer!!! ;-)